So I’m sure a lot of you have heard about the ridiculous ‘artistic event’ that some are calling a ‘feminist gathering’ being held at a plantation, hosted by Ani DiFranco. Well shits hitting the fan on the Facebook page after some woman kept dismissing the critiques of black women about the insensitivity and thoughtlessness of the location. This person then made a fake account impersonating a black woman. Below are screen shots of the wreck.
This is how far white women are willing to go to silence black women.
this shit is so sad its almost funny.
Here is a link to the page if you want to let Ani and the organizers of this event how fucked up all this is.
I was skeptical as soon as I read “I’m gonna say dis”. But also…”LaQueeta”. Oh god. This is so painful.
I said my piece, but you know I’m not holding my breath. Jfc this is fucking gross.
for colored girls who logged off okcupid when the fetishization was too much
I’m not colored, but I’m plus-sized and let me tell you, the fetishization was just as real and still much too much.
Thats valid but a separate post would do just as fine. This post is for woc (the use of the word colored by non-poc is problematic) and it’s not fair as a white person to steer the conversation in a different direction.
and also, plus-sized WoC exist too…
I was following the previous post when I wrote what I did. It was not me intentionally saying “colored” instead of WOC. And secondly, why does one struggle have to be separate from another? Isn’t the fetishization of anyone enough of an issue to fight against all forms of creeps? You’re telling me that because I’m not a WOC, my own horrible experiences on that website are not as valid as yours. Get a clue if you think that because I’m “white” I don’t know what it’s like to be a sick fetish that I didn’t chose to be.
That’s not the point though, the point is that THIS post was about the struggle WoC face in being fetishized. Make a different post about it, don’t derail this one. And don’t for a second pretend that saying “colored” is okay because a PoC said it first.
Um, also, nowhere in this entire thread has anyone said cookie-balls’ experiences weren’t valid, or were any less important.
She’s reacting the way most folk do when called out for derailing…with strawman arguments and ridiculousness.
I had the most interesting conversation with one of my really close friends (who is a Black guy) and we were talking about respectability politics & police violence. We were talking about how respectability politics within the Black community has got to go and it our responsibility to not play into it although at the end of the day we can’t help but sometimes benefit from it.
So then I said… well all about if a cop pulls a gun on you when you’re walking home and you know that the way to catch his attention is by saying where you attend college because that would separate you from the majority of Black people in the area (I go to school in city that is primarily Black and Latino but we attend a PWI with barely any Black students). Name-dropping your college/ taking our your student I.D. versus your regular I.D. for the cops could save your life. And that is respectability politics in action.
He said that he wouldn’t do that because he is fed up with the fact that there are conditions on our humanity and that if knowing that he’s in college is the difference between a cop being trigger happy or not then essentially oh well.
I’m more practical/ less noble so I definitely said I would pull out that student I.D…. but how degrading! And that happens to us all the time. We’re always questioned about whether we’re students and then we have to pull out the student I.D. I swear some of the police think it’s fake so they actually run the I.D. in their system like we might have a fake one. So we’re constantly assumed to not belong on campus. And yet, white community members are on campus all the time. Especially the older ones. And are never questioned.
And I feel like whenever I acquiesce to those kinds of requests to show my student I.D. I am #1) debasing myself because I am going along with the notion that because I’m Black I don’t deserve common respect UNLESS I reach all these other standards… of being a college student. And #2) I am asserting a privilege to make my life easier in that moment that many other Black folks cannot do.
It was a very interesting discussion we had… I don’t really think there are any answers. It’s just unfortunate all around.
I think dark skin models are viewed as less desirable than a light skin model. We are only picked for a video or a gig if the artist asks. If not, they’re going to go with a light skin model and now, more than ever, Spanish and European models are getting picked over black women in general.
Do you think you will ever see me as the lead in a P.Diddy video or an Usher video even though both of them have (in Usher’s case had) a dark skin woman as their significant other? Its pretty sad. Robin Thicke has more dark skin women in his videos than most of the black artists LOL. We have the T-Pain’s, Anthony Hamilton’s and Dwele’s that mostly always use a dark skin woman in their videos.
The parts the most dark skin women play in videos are the ghetto girl, or the girl dancing etc. Light skin women get the parts of the love interest almost always. Now I’m not saying to switch it up and start treating light skin girls how dark skin girls have been treated. I just want it to be fair and equal. If you can put 3 light skin girls in the same video, then why can’t you do the same for dark skin girls? Stop with the 1 token dark skin girl…”
Bria Myles - Video Model (via chocolatehighhh)
This! It blows my mind that self-hatred can be so internalized that you could look at Bria Myles and think she is anything less than a goddess on earth. Like, even disregarding her legendary body….just her face alone is worth worshipping.
Let me get famous and have to hire a model for anything. I’d be lookin for her ass at high noon with a mufuckin flashlight.