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Woman & Mother.
heir to the legacy of a fine ass, formerly infamous, slowly-aging brown woman and a nutty yellow dude with a secret al-b sure complex.
Welcome To My Awakening.
The First Time You Realize Your Father Has Moved On
(After Melissa Newman-Evans)
The First Time
Your father has moved on
You are relieved.
The second time
Your father has moved on
You are happy.
That something else
Other than memories of your mother’s face
Has kept him occupied
But, the third time
Your father has moved on.
It seems that he had no intention
Of taking his three children with him.
Your father and his new girlfriend,
are getting pretty serious.
A lot more serious than the one before her.
Makes you sit up in your seat.
The kind of serious that got you ready to run
for family portraits to guarantee yourself a spot.
He calls her honey
Your mother was only good enough for Vicky.
When he hold his new girlfriend’s hand,
It is soft.
When he is with her,
he is soft.
The fourth time,
He has taken your rooms at his new house
And made them theirs.
He tells you it’s because “you are never here”
If they were ever meant for you in the first place.
The fifth time looks like no invitation to the movies
Your Grandmother’s House
You do not have first dibs.
Family is hard to say.
Feels like barbed-wire on the inside of your cheek.
He is unapologetic about how much he loves her.
So much so, that your conversations feel like
The 11th time
Your father has
Your father ends conversations with
“Best of luck”
“I wish you the best”
“I hope life is treating you well”
He has mistaken you as long distance cousin.
The twenty-fifth time looks like
All of them and all of your dad’s time
The dad you never got.
The most recent time looks like
A marriage proposal
A forced smile
A new family
An unapologetically jealous 21 year old
A new father
A wedding you might not go to.
A 2nd chance to loving people the right way.
A Dad you never got the chance to meet.
get out of my feels
ATTENTION, BLACK GORLS AND BLACK GORL ALLIES OF TUMBLR:
AT FIRST, I WAS IN LOVE WITH THE CONCEPT OF THE ‘I MET GOD, SHE’S BLACK’ T-SHIRTS/SLOGANS THAT WERE FLOATING AROUND.
BUT AFTER DOING SOME RESEARCH, I FOUND OUT THAT THE PERSON BEHIND IT WAS A WHITE DUDE NAMED DYLAN CHENFELD.
READ THE SHIT HE HAD TO SAY BELOW ABOUT THE “CONCEPT” BEHIND IT:
"The core concept behind the phrase is taking something that everyone unconsciously accepts and flipping it on its head. I think at this point your average American hears the word “God” and immediately thinks “white guy, long beard.” This is probably due to the media, cartoons, and every portrayal of “God” being a white male. I switched it, and made it the opposite: a black female."
MORAL OF THE STORY: DYLAN IS AN APPROPRIATING, “IRONIC” WHITE HIPSTER WHO IS USING BLACK POWER CONCEPTS TO MAKE MONEY.
DON’T SUPPORT THIS FUCKSHIT.
I ASK THIS OF YOU, MY DEAR PEOPLE ON TUMBLR.
FOR. THE. LOVE. OF. GOD. DON’T. DO. IT.
SPREAD THE WORD BECAUSE I DIDN’T KNOW THIS WAS HAPPENING .
shut it down
A Good idea is a good idea, dose not matter who came up with it.
Coming from a dude that has the picture of a black woman’s naked torso on his blog with references of “chocolate” I can understand why you would see it’s not a problem.
But it is a problem. It’s a large problem.
A white man getting money by expoiting black women is A HUGE problem.
But much like how you don’t care anything about the rest of the headless naked black woman on your blog, you also didn’t care to read the contents of the post.
black women’s struggles don’t matter to you. but you know, they’ve got great bodies, right? Bodies that you like to beat off to for your pleasure right?
don’t go on his blog. It’s gross
glad i didn’t end up spending any money
Knowing what I knew now, I went through my hair products and their ingredients list then went to the store to find products that I researched would be good for my hair.
Here’s what I found out.
THE HAIR CARE AISLE IS LITERALLY OUT TO GET US NATURALS.
Let me explain.
1. About 95% of the ingredients were the same in the natural, or “Ethnic Hair” as my local Wal-Mart likes to call it, section. Read the back. Minus a select few products, they all have the same main ingredients in them. And on top of that, probably about 99% of the “Ethnic Hair” products had the same ingredients as the white hair products.
So that means, the stuff that’s in their hair bottles
Is being sold to us, but with her face on it
(Not really, cause I’ve never seen B endorse a natural hair product. BUT YOU GET THE POINT.)
And that’s why they leave us high and dry. Looking crazy.
2. Oh, but them labels will have you fooled bruh. Moisturizing Creme! Souffle of Hydration! Olive Oil infused! Now with Shea Butter(But it’s actually the 12th ingredient on the list hidden like fine print)! Strengthening conditioner! Protein jelly! Ointment of the good hair gawds! Yeah, they’re good at convincing us their particular product will be the miracle worker. But nah.
3. You have to know your hair before you even think about going to buy a product. Your favorite YouTuber’s hair may have the same curl pattern as yours, the same length, the same look, BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN IT WILL WORK FOR YOU. There are so many things other than curl pattern that effect how a product works with our hair. Naturally curly has a great chart if you want to being to learn more about your hair.
4. You have to know what the ingredients do! Like I said before, these products will have you fooled if you just look at the front of them. But companies are getting smarter. They’ll also have you fooled if you look at the back, too. The first ingredient for most of the products was every naturals favorite: WATER. Omg! Water is the main ingredient, it must be good for me! No. Great. There’s water in there. But the next few ingredients after water will tell you what’s up. Amino acids/proteins, sulfates, heavy oils, and a lot of others are big no-no’s for my hair. And they were usually the next ingredients listed. All along we’ve been side-eyeing silicones and mineral oil, when every other ingredient was entirely wrong for our hair type. Oh, I got frustrated in that aisle. Felt like I had been lied to all my life. The ultimate hair betrayal.
5. Even if you get the product with all the right ingredients, it still may fail. I read everywhere that Jojoba oil would be the bomb diggity for my hair. And maybe it will be, I’m not writing it off completely because I didn’t buy a pure jojoba oil product. Jojoba oil was its main ingredient, but it was mixed with a ton of other oils. I thought, hmm, it won’t be so bad. That stuff was HEAVY. And I don’t need any heavy sealing oil, my hair seals perfectly on it’s own. It was just going to sit on my hair and make it greasy. Now, I know I can’t use it as a sealant for my LCO method, but maybe I can use it in a deep conditioning treatment. Either way, it’s a win cause I learned from it.
All in all, this journey is about fails, wins, and learning. And I’m definitely learning. I hope you continue to learn, too.
P.S. Y’all if I come up missing these next few days, watch out for these hair companies. I feel like I just exposed all their secrets and I’m on a watch list now.
UPDATE: Now on water regimen week one, will tell you how that goes…
I don’t know who I just fell in love with, but I do love you OP
Anonymous asked: I stopped tracking the dreads/dreadlocks tags because I got tired of the endless arguing and seeing the same pictures all the time, and the tags being overwhelmingly full of white people, but now I see white people in the locs tag! They're in the afro and natural hair tags, too! Any tag related to black people, there they are. I just want to look at black people's hair and get care tips and just read stuff by black people, but white people just will NOT go away. =(
they are reckless and I understand. They don’t care about what they do or how their actions impact black people.